Sunday, February 03, 2008

The New Year = New Problems

I decided I should keep my blog more to date in the New Year. I have so much I want to write about and so much to remember hopefully I wont forget as much as I did last year. T's business has failed and he has decided to give up New Zealand and try and go back to the US. Not sure what is going to happen. I dont know how I feel about it. Since his business has gone under he has been severely depressed and doesnt do much but sit on the couch and play video games. This week he has played about 9 hours per day at least. We always said we werent going to punish Meggy with spankings but with a naughty corner which I have been doing faithfully. It works so well that when I tell her that she is naughty she goes right to the corner. Tonight though she was trying to get his attention while he was playing games and he spanked her so hard her bottom was bright red and sore. I know it hurt because I intervened and he hit my hand. It hurt alot. I guess one reason I came to my blog was because I wanted somewhere I could hash it out in my mind and make sense of it. I know we will argue about this and the two types of discipline will confuse her. He isnt a violent man so I dont know where this coming from, is this a sympton of his depression? Should I be worried?
Horse Lines I love our life now and I dont want anything to change. Here is hoping 2008 can turn out better.


Stef said...

Hi Beth, wow you have a lot going on! I am so sorry the business went under and honestly I can understand a little the depression T must be facing because if it.

No one likes to think they have failed at anything. I went through something similar with my training business. It sucked.

I know from personal experience that dealing with a perceived failure like this (because it is only really a failure in his mind as it was in mine) makes you behave in ways that you don't like.

I can't speak to the spanking since I don't have children but I guess I just want you to know that I am with you on this. In a supportive way as I can't say who is right or wrong in this scenario.

I will send good thoughts that you guys work this out as well as the other issues of possible moving, etc. These are HUGE changes that would stress anyone!

Your Friend,

aJ said...

Sigh, i think T is depressed. M is too and we've been arguing aLot bec he's still UE. I do agree that a little spanking is ok, but that is onLy after all other methods of discipline has been exhausted. Naughty time out corner is good.
I mean, I don't have kids, but from exp of being big sister turned mom to them, it's difficult to keep kids from acting up sometimes.
hugs to ya! hope all will be better soon.